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Thursday, November 19, 2015

Your Life IS on Track

I saw an article today... Actually, I read a lot of articles, so this is nothing out of the ordinary, but the subject matter was new to me.

read the article here

There's been a lot in the news lately... Everything from Starbucks cups to terrorism. But when I was in high school, there were two topics that were almost constantly up for debate. So I guess the headline of the article took me back to that place.

The article was written as a defense for women's reproductive rights, arguing that 100,000 women have attempted home-abortions due to lack of access to clinics in Texas (HB2).

While I do believe in the sanctity of life, I think there's a bigger issue at stake here. Most self-proclaiming Christians cheer every time a family-planning clinic closes. As if lack of access to abortion is the heart of the problem? As if that fixes what's wrong here?

Gosh... that doesn't even begin to touch God's heart.

I can say without question that God's heart breaks for every child that doesn't see day due to abortion. That's his creation being rejected: a unique individual that could have done incredible feats. But I also think God has a special place in his heart for motherhood and families.

God created the family - he designed it.

Taking away access to abortion clinics doesn't change the reason why women end pregnancies, it just makes them desperate and consider other options, be it home-abortion or adoption.

Abortion happens when a woman decides she can't be a mom to the child.

And there are a variety of reasons, normally feelings of inadequacy, inconvenience, or fear.

But while abortion has been around for centuries - home abortion is nothing new - I think self-determination is something that has historical roots here in America.

You see, at the end of the 1800s, the Women's Rights movement began to take shape. It was a long-awaited change in Victorian culture that sought to explore another side of womanhood - beyond that of a housewife, and more as a critical thinker. Role models for women were changing along with the new century - women like Susan B Anothony and Eleanor Roosevelt.

America has always stood for self-betterment and new opportunities... and this subject is no different.

The redefinition of what was acceptable for women progressed, especially with industrialization, the 20's and WWII. The Second World War was a major turning point. With most of the male population being drafted into the war, their wives and girlfriends stepped into their places, and quite frankly, were in no hurry to give back their jobs when the war ended. (Side note - that was not a jab at homelessness. That has its roots with WWI and PTSD. "Hobo" comes from homeward bound, many of the Great War vets simply never made it home and continued to wander, or struggled to work because of PTSD). 

This was the era of the working woman.

With the rise in working women, and several more human rights movements, ours has become a culture of non-conformism. We redefined woman-hood, then person-hood, and then came the sexual revolution. We are a rather self-determined lot, though at the same time, we subject ourselves to conforming to non-conformism. Anything that conforms has to be outdated, old and rejected.

Somehow, we've glorified independence at the cost of family.

Let's face it, if a young lady says, "I want to be a mommy when I grow up," she gets shamed and asked what kind of job she wants to have. She's liberated, she doesn't have to be a mommy. If she becomes a mommy, then she sacrifices any other opportunities she might otherwise have available to her.

You know, the one fear I hear quite a bit from my peers, is that by being a young mother, they might miss out on something.

I swear, our world thrives on the pendulum swing.

Motherhood used to be an incredible gift. Now, it's almost a bad thing - because you'll have to stop working, sacrifice sleep and kids are rude, sticky and loud.

I would like to turn that idea on its head.

What if we stopped looking at motherhood as a sacrifice of independence? What if we started telling little girls, you can be anything you want to be, even a mommy? And being a mom is such a cool job because you can be a mom AND a a fill-in-the-blank-here. Or just mom. You don't have to be a mom, but if you want to, you can.

What if girls believed that?

Because I don't think they do. They've been told all the horror stories of motherhood and none of the joys.

Most of them believe that if they become a mom, they're not living up to their potential... they're just pregnant. And of course, pregnancy "should only happen on purpose." As if that's the worst thing that could happen to you?

And THAT my friends, is the lie that we really need to ditch.

Because jobs will come and go

Careers can be derailed.

And impact is not limited to the world.

Because the legacy you leave is not defined by your independence or non-conformity, but by the people you love and the people who love you. If you recall all the trailblazers of the 20th century... not one of them would have a legacy if no one cared about their cause, or they didn't take the time to urge others to care.

I don't think making abortion illegal creates real change. Real change happens when we start looking at people, not matter what is happening in their lives and say, "You can do this," NOT, "Get your life back on track." That, coming from the crowd who defies the notion of a correct track? Already, I hope you see the problem. Back on the non-existent track?

Because nothing that happens to you is unforeseen by God. And God can use ANYTHING in your life. Intentional or unintentional. Your life IS on track, whether he leads you towards a job/ministry or towards a family. Neither one is bad. Just different. And God is active in every corner of life.

Once we start to believe that, unforeseen life complications won't be something to ditch... just another adventure to take on.

Monday, November 9, 2015

It Isn't Starbucks Who's Failed

I just need to preface this post by saying that I absolutely adore Christmas. I don't hesitate to say that I mark my year by the Christmas season and everything in relation to it. And in light of my faith, the season and the message behind it means a lot to me.

However, this whole Red Cup ordeal makes me angry.

And not for the reasons you might expect.

It all boils down to this: I don't expect Starbucks to be my source of holiday... I don't know, spirit, joy... whatever hoopla you want to fill in the blank? And even more than that, Starbucks has not set out on a mission to spread the gospel, they're out to provide customer service and decent coffee. That's it. If you expect more from them, then I have a new challenge for you.

Are you failing so horribly at your job as a Christian that you expect Starbucks to do it for you by putting, "Merry Christmas" on their cups? Are they supposed to take up the cross and spread the gospel? This is a bigger problem than a change in artwork. Because I really don't think a change in artwork should incur such a fuss as it has from the Christian community.

I want to tell you a story about Starbucks... and its not about the company, but about some individuals who work there. Real living people.

Several years ago, the local Starbucks in my town hired a young lady from a nearby church. A very kind, God-loving, diligent college student. And after working there for a while, the manager mentioned that he would be interested in hiring any of her friends because he liked her as an employee. This triggered a chain of hires, mostly college students from our church.

This story isn't about Starbucks and its image. That manager was simply looking for good employees and found a decent source. We have an opportunity as Christians to share the gospel with our lives, not with cups.

Some of us dream of working for Christian companies and organizations, because apparently, we've deceived ourselves into believing that's the best way to honor God. Where on earth did that idea come from?

We've been commissioned to go out into the world and preach the gospel to the nations. And we can't to that by Christianizing our world. We actually have to encounter the part of the world that doesn't share our values and show them something worth having.

Don't you get it? It's OUR mission. OUR job.

Our job as family members to love and care for the people we live with. Our job as citizens to honor God with our vote and participation. Our job as employees to represent Christ in our workplaces.
A cup with "Merry Christmas" on it can't do that.

So if the message of Christmas isn't going to be shared because Starbucks took the phrase off of its cups, it isn't Starbucks who's failed. It's us as Christians, who've backed out of this incredible calling we've received.

So in everything you do, conduct yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel.

Sunday, September 27, 2015

5 Things Single People Don't Like to Hear

One of the challenges of being single, but looking forward to a relationship, is all the advice and comments you get from your well-meaning friends who ARE in relationships. But I have to say, whether true or not, they’re not always very appreciated – and for some reason, always seem to have hidden meanings.

1. Be glad you have this time to yourself.

Well, I guess so. But God created us to be “in relationship” both with Him and others. And not just significant others, but friends. So whether I’m dating or not, my time is never really for me alone. And I really don’t have any desire to be unto myself. That just sounds lonely, to be honest – and life isn’t about me anyways.

and just as a comment… now that you’re in a relationship, do you miss being on your own? This almost seems to reflect more on you than me. I’m almost more concerned for YOUR relationship than my single status.

2. God must be working on you right now.

Sigh… this is actually my least favorite one. I think it comes from the idea that maybe said single person has a problem they would otherwise bring into a relationship. And honestly, that kinda hurts, mostly because it’s like a subtle way of saying, “there’s something wrong with you.” But somehow it’s okay to say because I’m pretty sure that God is always working on us.

I’d like to think that whether you’re in a relationship or not, you’re always submitting yourself to God’s work. But honestly, when someone says this, it makes me want to ask, “As my friend, I want you to hold me accountable, would you just come out and say what you’re seeing that I should be aware of?”

3. You deserve better or He/She’s not good enough for you

This normally comes when things aren’t working out with a crush. And it’s meant to be a compliment to build you up and make you feel good about yourself. But at the same time, It’s also a “bash” on him/her, which, when you like someone, reflects on your taste. Kind of a bittersweet comment.

And really, when your heart is on the line, it’s no fun to hear people bash the person you have feelings for.

4. Juggling a relationship and school/a job is hard.

This one… I understand that they’re trying to make you feel better… like you’re maybe saving yourself some stress. I mean really, the person who normally says this is the busy girl/guy who has that supper flexible, go-with-the-flow significant other. And in all their busyness, it seems that they still think it’s worth it. So… from the outside looking in, it seems like for whatever hardships come, forming a relationship is more like a worthwhile investment. So it’s hard to really take this statement in and think, “I’m content.”

5. God must be saving you for someone really special.

Ugh… this is the one we tell ourselves all the time and I don’t know, I sure that in His omnipotence, God has a great plan, but… well… normally this one ends the whole, “why are you still single” conversation. It’s that end note placate. And well, it just… okay, it’s not the worst one… but you hear it one too many times and it sort of looses its potency. It starts feeling a little flat.


Sometimes I wonder if people in relationships are trying to tell single people all the things they wish they knew beforehand, but I think they’re missing a very important point. Most single people don’t want relationship advice, or validation of “singleness.” Most of them are waiting for a new stage in life. It's not about "all they great things you can do as a single person," it's more about something that hasn't been done yet. Or even better, wanting someone to be support you in all you do (Besides God, they always seem to bring that one up)

A new season.

Really, I guess… I think most single people just want a chance to TRY.

That’s it. All the placations kind just feel like we’re being smothered. Like our frustrations aren’t valid, or you’re hinting at something.


So REGARDLESS of the merits of singlehood… just pat your single friend on the back when they’re feeling discouraged. Let them vent. And really, they’re just anxious for their chance to try.

Friday, August 21, 2015

Christian Hypocrites

You can't go on facebook or anything of the like without running into rampant posts about surfacing accusations of Christian celebrities. I'll get onto idolatry at another time. And to be completely honest, the more articles I read, the more my heart breaks. I read angry comments from other viewers who seem to be loosing their faith in humanity and God right alongside angry Christian defenders who hurl back insults along with the best of them. Some even outright deny the accusations.

To be honest, I can't deny what's happened, some have issued statements confirming the accusation. I wish I could say these people perfectly model the Christian life - but they don't. But I never put much stock in modeling my life after other Christians. The best statement I've ever heard is, "follow me as I follow Christ." And that's the real heart of Christianity and discipleship, even as we encourage one another, we should never look to people as our examples, rather, Christ is the only perfect executer of all that is good - love, grace, justice, peace.

All that leads me to my real point.

While the Christian world mourns it's fallen figure-heads, I think we need to step back from our idolatry and remember that we're all sinners under grace.

And you may or may not know this, but the Church ISN'T A MUSEUM FOR SAINTS. In fact, if we were to try and build one, not one Christian would completely measure up to the standard. In reality, the whole reason we need Christ, is the fact that we aren't perfect. And needing God isn't a one time thing that happens when you accept his gift of grace. I ALWAYS NEED GOD. There's never a moment where I can do life on my own. I'm utterly dependent on him.

If it were just me, I would say and do whatever came to mind. Life would revolve around my happiness - forget taking the time to help the people around me.

Confession: When I forget to read my Bible, when I forget to pray or listen in church - if I hide away and get wrapped up in my own needs and wants - sin gets ahold of my life.

And to be honest - it's embarrassing.

By taking on the title of "Christian," I feel an enormous pressure to live up to the name of Christ. So when sin has a foothold in my life, the only response I have is to hide. To put on a good face, to look "right."

And let's face facts, I can imagine that's pretty similar to the Josh Duggar case.

It's a big lump of shame, hiding and pretending.

But don't we all do that in our own way?

That's life when we forget to depend on Christ for our strength. Our own strength just isn't enough.

So church, let's turn our attention away from these other Christians, and take a good look at our own spiritual lives. Because they are accountable before God, NOT US. And they should never have been your heroes of the faith in the first place. They're just human.

Because Church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints. We're all a little broken.

But isn't that the whole reason Christ came?

Don't forget to put your trust and reliance on God today.

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

I Don't Think Courting Means What You Think It Means

At our house, Saturday is chore day.

But I'm one of those people who conducts dialogues with myself while I'm cleaning - history, writing, movies... I ponder it all. And today's topic is Historical Courting.

Not courting.

Historical Courting.

Because, as I'd like to point out, there's a difference between what a lot of folks would like to call courting and the idea from which it originated.

Something I've begun to notice from many Christians who are discouraged with the world we live in today, is a desire to return to bygone days - the "It was better back then" mentality. But the past is subjective to its own circumstances. Humanity doesn't change, just it's circumstances. They had murderers back then too.

Likewise, the idea of courtship is vastly dependent on the participating culture aa well as the era.

But to keep things simple, I'd like to point something out (I'm using a mid-late 1800s example).

Did you know that the word, "Chaperone," DID NOT refer to someone who followed you on your date? Chaperone was actually more commonly used in place of the words escort, date, or companion for the evening.

Yes, I did say date. As is the male love-interest.

Think of it in this context. No matter what, as a girl, it's good to take precaution when you go out. If you're by yourself, don't walk into dark alleys, and best case scenario, take a friend with you.

Same concept.

If you're going to a party, you go with a date right? Your date is responsible for taking care of your for the duration of the evening and returning you home. This could be a brother, a male friend or another male family member.

In the movie, "Meet Me In St. Louis," Esther Smith (Judy Garland) is escorted to the Christmas Eve Dance by her grandfather. Her sister Rose (Lucille Bremer) is escorted by their brother. However, both girls meet up with their beaus at the dance, who bring them home at the end of the evening.

But here's what I really want to get at.

You've all read L.I. Wilder's Little House books, right? And I don't mean, "seen the TV show." That TV show is horribly inaccurate. So don't use it as a source of knowledge for the books.

The second to last book, These Happy Golden Years was written about the time during which Laura and her husband were dating (the mid 1880s - they married in 1885). This is the Victorian Era, if you were curious - the days of bustle dresses (my personal favorite).

So anyways... I've heard a lot about some more modern concepts of courtship, but it doesn't exactly match these idealized days of dating. In fact, it was more reminiscent of something my dad once said to me when I was in junior high.

He told me that if a guy wanted to date me, there was a written test and an interview.

I laughed.

But really... If you HAVEN'T read Laura's books, I would like to share some details.

  • Laura met Almanzo officially when he offered her a ride home from school (though she did run into him shortly after moving to their homestead in De Smet)
  • Almanzo was 10 years older than Laura and her father's friend.
  • Almanzo would drive Laura home each week from the school she taught at because he was better able to than her father. 
  • Most of their "dates" were what Laura called their, "Sunday Drives." She and Almanzo would go on long buggy rides after church. 
  • Some of their dates were in groups, such as buggy rides with Ida, Mary and Cap, or the period of time during which they attended "singing school." 
  • Almanzo did ask Pa's permission to marry Laura before proposing. 
  • Laura's and Almanzo's first kiss was upon their engagement. 
  • Laura was 18 and Almanzo was 28 when they married.
Anyways... while I was throwing around these ideas, you can see where a lot of modern courtship ideas come from, such as the waiting to kiss and asking her father's permission to marry her. However, I would also wager that their "courtship" also looks an awful lot like modern dating, as well.

Actually, I would say that this Historical Courtship looks more like common sense.

Remember what I said about the written test and the interview? Honestly, I think that more stems from the idea that your parents ought to have met your date. Think about it... Almanzo was a trusted friend of Laura's family. When he began asking Laura to go on rides with him, Ma and Pa trusted him to take care of their daughter. But it's more similar to that age old idea of your date coming inside to sit with your father while he's waiting for your to come downstairs. Dad asks a few questions, says something about the shotgun he owns and what time to have you home.

You know, the more I think about it, even when girls aren't living at home anymore, they tend to talk a lot about the men they're seeing with friends. Advice and insight from friends can be incredibly valuable. The same can be said for dear old dad's impressions.

So, if your escort/date presents himself as a nice guy, then I think, as long as you avoid alleyways, closets and dark rooms, he can to trusted to chaperone you when you go somewhere. To keep you safe from miscreants who might try to steal your purse.

But even Laura went on group dates. Friends make good company. They can help judge character and encourage everyone to keep their hands to themselves (aka PDA).

Something interesting about the way Laura and Almanzo starting dating, though... It's hard to tell at first. There are no declared intentions, just a gradual increase in awareness of one another. Almanzo begins changing their outings to specifically reflect Laura's preferences.

This is most certainly not to suggest that These Happy Golden Years ought to be the model for every relationship. I certainly would like to marry someone a LITTLE closer in age than 10 years. But I think the book certainly offers a good perspective on what dating used to look like.

And what it DOESN'T look like, is our modern courtship.

It's a new day. A new era. A different time. And our definitions are affected by our own culture, just as their was affected by the conditions of the 1880s in South Dakota.

So please, don't use the, "it was better back then," line unless you really know what it was like then. Because modern courtship is NOT a revival of historical values. It's a response to our own time and culture.

#petpeeves #historymajor


Saturday, July 11, 2015

"Heroic"

Tom Welling (CW's Smallville)
Earlier today, I read a post on facebook about Heroism.

The only problem is - I think we're beginning to forget the basic idea of how to join the "hero" industry. It's easy to throw around the word "hero" when you've deleted the defining factors from memory.

I'm sure you remember in school, someone likely asked you, "Who's your hero?" But they may have easily exchanged the word, "hero," for, "idol."

Who is your idol? The person you've put on a pedestal? Who can do no wrong in your eyes? Who you emulate? Strive to be like?

Who is your hero? The person you saved you at some point? Who put themselves are risk for your sake? Who practices self-sacrifice and bravery?

A hero is personal. An idol is not. Heroism requires connection. Action. Intentionality. But above all: it requires Humility.

Stephen Amell (CW's Arrow)
You see, there are many things we can do in life that come with a certain measure of ease. It's apart of our makeup. What makes you YOU. Your gifts, talents and abilities. But how do you put that abilities to use? It it because it gives you a certain amount of satisfaction and joy? But what about other people?

What about when your grandma cooks dinner, or bakes cookies? She loves to cook, but you benefited from her cooking, correct?

I'm going to challenge you with something:

She's still not a hero. Not yet.

Not yet.

You see, even though she put her talents and abilities to work for your pleasure, she hasn't sacrificed anything but her pocketbook and an hour or so of time.

Heroism is costly.

It's sacrifice - and not only sacrifice but self-sacrifice. It's selfless, not selfish.

Grant Gustin (CW's The Flash)
Heroism is NOT ABOUT THE HERO. Not his personal agenda, not his pride. Heroism is about THE PERSON SAVED.

Gory is merely a side effect.

You see - in every Super Hero story you will ever see/hear/read - the Hero never self-labels.

The hero isn't the first person to call themselves a hero.

And in every story, becoming a hero is always to their own risk.

Think about it - sacrificing normalcy, facing mortality, rejection.

Becoming a hero really isn't to their own benefit. But the hero realizes something - People need heroes. So they set aside their reservations and fears to do incredible things for the people around them. And more often than not, they keep it a secret. It's not about getting personal glory.

Do you realize how gifted you are? You have a gift. Of some kind. But how to you plan to use it?

How do you plan to use your life?

Is your life about you? About your own happiness, wants and safety? Because, dare I say it, you're no hero.
Melissa Benoist (CBS's Supergirl)

Do you know know is a hero? Look around you.

Think of someone who makes sacrifices.

Think of someone who stood out when the rest of us cowered.

Someone who is selfless.

Who isn't about their own happiness, but about the happiness of others?

Because guess what? The best kind of happiness, is when your actions bring joy to another.

Happiness is community.

Because selfish people come in two varieties - putting others in danger, and therefore, becoming villians. And then, there are the isolationists. And neither leads to happiness.

So let's hold fast to heroism.

The next time someone asks you, "Who's your hero?" Don't tell them who your idol is. I'd be willing to be your idol likes the attention. But your hero? They probably don't even know they are one.

When I was a freshman in high school, I did something rather stupid. I'm sure we all have stories. I told one of the girls in my PE class to participate (she was texting in the middle of a volleyball game). Bad idea.

She sent her friends after me. They stalked me, pulled my hair. Bullied me. I needed a hero.

I was terrified. (You try feeling brave after someone pulls your hair).

So I found a friend. She stayed with me. Walked me out of the locker room. Kept close.

She didn't have to. She even told me she happened to be friends with the girl I offended. But nevertheless, she played the part of a hero.

And you remember that example I made out of grandma? Funny thing about grandmas - a lot of the ones I know are widows. Life can be hard without other people around you. But I can't begin to tell you how many widows I know who have the biggest hearts. Who put their limited resources on the line to make others happy. That's a hero.

Who's your hero?

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On the topic of heroes. I just want to say - I found out the other day that Dean Cain and Helen Slater are joining the Supergirl team. You can't begin to know how happy that makes me. 

If you ask me who my favorite Super hero is, I'll say superman every time - because the superman community tends to be fairly amazing and close knit. Since the CW's Smallville, staring Tom Welling as Superman, previous stars have started making cameos, such as the infamous Christopher Reeve (Clark Kent) and Margo Kidder (Lois Lane), Annette O'Toole (Lana Lang), Dean Cain (Clark Kent), Teri Hatcher (Lois Lane), and Helen Slater (Kara/Supergirl). 

So now, you can understand why I'm so excited to see CBS carrying on the tradition of cameos with the 90's superman and the 80's supergirl. 

By the way - Dean Cain was apart of a show called, "Lois & Clark: The New Adventures of Superman." If you're curious, it really was well constructed. I loved it. However, it definitely places more of an emphasis on the relationship between Lois and Clark, not on the action (traditional to superhero shows). 


Saturday, June 27, 2015

June 26 was Different


Let me begin by restating the title of this article - June twenty-sixth was different.

As a Christian and a History student, I want to offer a perspective on yesterday and I suppose, the future. This is my fourth year studying history, next year, I will have finished my bachelor's in History. I've taken classes on American, Californian, Western Civilization, Medieval and Renaissance History, as well as History of Religion in America, Christian Perspective, Theology, Old Testament and New Testament. Just to state my credentials. I also maintain above a 3.0 GPA.

I'm not just pulling this out of nowhere. This is my education at work.

If you didn't already know, yesterday, gay marriage, or more fondly termed, "marriage equality" was legalized across the United States. Many are cheering and other are thoroughly distressed over this decision. I would like to simply offer perspective.

Historically speaking, this movement is being compared to the Civil War, Women's and Civil Rights movements. But after having read many articles, I am noticing that the authors of these articles are not historians, on either side of the argument - I want to rectify that.

If you don't mind, I want to go back to the Civil War for a moment, and plan to reference the Biblical Text as it applies. We'll move through history from there.


African Slavery

Click Here for a Timeline of Slave History

African Slaves first arrived in the States in 1619, but take note that this was not a first. Slavery's beginning dates back centuries. And it was not limited to African slaves. Throughout world history, humans have warred and taken their neighbors as slaves, and on occasion, even sold each other (themselves and their children) into slavery. Sometimes for their own wellbeing, other times to repay debt and more sadly, as war prizes. With African slavery, it was a mixture of everything. Neighboring, waring tribes would sell one another to the white men and those traders would bring the slaves to Europe and the states. This dates back almost four hundred years.

The common consensus among the white people, was that those of different color, ethnicity and language were not as human as they were, and in some cases, not created in God's image and therefore, not entitled to the same rights. In fact, in 1787, while discussing population and statehood, it was decided that a slave counted as three-fifths of a person.

I cannot deny that churches throughout the United States were not uniformly appalled at this. Though there were cases in which the Christian church took a stance. Many Christians leading up to the Civil War took great issue with the lessening of their personhood. Many also feared for their financial situation and let that take sway over their faith.

So here is the real issue, Christians were divided about the issue of an African American's personhood. But what does the Bible have to say about this? Does someone of a different race have the same rights to personhood under God?

Let me start by stating that the Jews certainly aren't Aryan and yet they are God's chosen people.
For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek. Romans 1:16
The book of Romans was written to both the Jews and Gentiles of Rome when there was a time of great division between them. The Jews were exercising a sort of authority over the Romans, believing that the Roman Gentiles had to, in a way, become Jewish, in order to be counted as true followers. But Paul wrote, explaining that they were under a new covenant, not the old covenant. The previous signs of "rightness with God," was not longer required because Jesus made a new BETTER way.
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus. Galatians 3:28
And to speak frankly, we are all descendants, first of Adam, then of Noah's sons. Therefore, we are all God's creation, made in his image and have equal access to God through Christ. The Bible even touches on a specific case regarding the freedom of slaves. There's an entire book. Read it. It's called, Philemon. Paul sends a Runaway slave back to his master with a letter - asking for Onesimus' freedom.

What really amazes me about African slaves, is that upon their arrival in the States, and through their years of captivity, a good majority of them started to abandon tribal religion (though clinging to some traditions) and began practicing Christianity, though separate from the whites.

I very much loved Harriet Beecher Stowe's book, Uncle Tom's Cabin. A story written by a preacher's daughter in order to bright to light the plight of slavery. She placed great emphasis on Tom's piety, childlike love (Eva), the difficulty slaves face (even with a good master), and the cruelty of a heartless master. The character, Tom, shows great faith that God will be with him, even in his trails, even when many during that time doubted God's love for slaves.

Just remember this note about the faith of the African American community - still one of the most thriving in America.

Women's Rights Movement


Now, beginning in 1848, a movement began, calling for the equal treatment of men and women under the law. This included inheritance, land ownership, and suffrage (the right to vote). Prior to this, the man of the house, be it the father, brother or husband, had ultimate say. This was a difficult thing to swallow for many women, others simply called it "God's will." But let's not deny the fact that under the law, this privilege was greatly abused in many circumstances. It would be silly to deny that ALL men treated their wives courteously. Though it should also be noted that not all men were abusive, or else this might have become a larger issue earlier on.

The suffragist movement was also accompanied by 1920's Prohibition, a movement largely promoted by the wives of alcoholics, who advocated that drunkenness was the root of societal problems.

In the year 1920, on August 26th, women were granted the right to vote. While the issue began as a conflict within the church, as the a woman's place, be it in the home, or out in the world (responsible for herself) the conclusion became something rather Biblical.

Take note that when Jesus first rose from the dead, he appeared to women, who testified to his resurrection. Within Jewish culture, women were not the testimony of choice when trying to gain validity. But Jesus was a world shaker. He kept company with criminals (tax collectors), lepers (who had a contagious disease), and women. Jesus wasn't looking for perfect friends. Rather, he kept company with those who were drawn to him - the rejected, who needed him. Perfect people don't tend to need anyone.

I've already written an article about women's rights, for more information, you can read it: I Am Feminine.

But here's a quick summary - God made men and women in his likeness, different, but equal. God loves men and women.

To be really revolutionary on this whole concept of God loves women, there's this fairly controversial book that I happen to like, The Shack, that dares to portray God as a Black Woman. But there's more to the book than just defying stereotypes. The point Wm. Paul Young makes in the book, is that God knows his children and their needs. And God is able to be everything we need. Since were are created in God's likeness, men and women, then doesn't that suggest that God is both masculine and feminine? He is our strong father, a defender, as well as a caring, nurturing mother? Don't take this too far, I'm just trying to say that God is our all-powerful sufficiency. (And I still refer to God as a Him/He/Father).

Civil Rights Movement


Now on to more recent History. I'm sure you've seen movies/plays/books such as Hairspray and the Help. Many stories, such as these, venture into the lives of African Americans even following the Emancipation Proclamation in January 1, 1863, and more officially in 1865. A simple law stating their freedom didn't immediately mean true freedom. It takes years to change a mindset. In this case, though slavery ended in the 1860's, the Jim Crow, Segregated South, lasted for almost one hundred years, into the 1960's.

While the church, in some cases remained neutral on the position, many simply avoided the situation, while others became vocal, either in favor of or against integration. Even today, I know admitted Christians who can't bring themselves to cast aside derogatory language. They live, feeding off of stereotypes and failing to assume the best - seeing others through God's eyes.

But as History has proved, We can now say, that in my generation, across the United States, in most places, not all, but most, Women have been accepted as equals, and laws that divide the races have been repealed. Men, Women and those of all ethnicities can hold the same rights under the law. We've even seen our first colored president. We'll just have to wait and see about a female president, but the law permits it. Though, let it be said that there are several first ladies who've left their mark, and even taken the lead in their husband's stead.

Today

In light of all this, America has see a precedent for equality, which is why these movements have been compared to yesterday. Many have been critical of the LBGT community and considered them subhuman. From their perspective, they have been denied basic rights. Understandably, there are some connections. Take note, that there are radicals and passive participants in any movement. 

I took my position on the issue of marriage several posts ago, and I don't think personal stance has anything to do with what the law states. As a Bible believing Christian, I hold that we are called to honor our governing authorities, just as I am called to honor God, my elders, parents and peers. Every human I lay eyes on is a creation of God, made in his image. 

Now this takes us to another historical issue that I have seen arising on facebook - and this has to do with government. 

Many Christians are crying out - horrified at the direction of our country. Their battle cry is that we are losing our identity as a Christian Nation. 

Now, I want to stop right there and draw attention to this claim that America is a Christian Nation. The root of this claim goes back to the founding fathers, and to a certain extent, the statement, "One Nation, Under God." And that little tagline on our money, "In God We Trust." 

I won't deny that there are many Biblical references throughout American History in government. But most Americans are sadly misinformed about the history of religion in America. 

To begin, many America began immigrating to the New World to escape the pressures of a very Catholic and Anglican Europe. The problem was the mixing of religion in Government. Rulers wanted a say in how the people practiced their faith and at times, what to believe. Consider the term, "State Sponsored Religion." This means that state money is given to one particular religion to encourage its growth, while other religions are neglected and even persecuted. In some cases the followers of other belief systems were even treated as criminals. This is what the early American colonists were fleeing. 

It's a freedom of speech and religion issue. 

As far as our founding fathers, when they began to assemble the government after the winning of war for Independence, they placed great emphasis on the concept of separation of powers and separation of church and state - so that the government wouldn't have supreme authority and wouldn't be able to dictate religion. The people would have say in how they were ruled, and the people could practice their beliefs without fear. 

But realize, to be completely honest, many of our founding fathers were not Christians - They were Deists. This is largely the reason we see mention of God and not Jesus, in historical documents. We derive much of our governmental influence, yes from the ten commandments, but also from the Magna Carta (England) and from early Philosophers and Greek and Roman government. 

America was founded on Freedom, though there is certainly Christian influence. Those early colonists were, for the most part, Christians trying to practice protestantism. And when you have a cluster of believers as the foundation of something, there is certain to be influence. But the founding fathers were not necessarily the most convicted Jesus trusting, transformed, Christians the world had to offer, they were deists. They believed in God. 

Actually, it was a very common belief in early America that the world was much like a spinning top, that God set it into motion, and then sat back to watch. Not many were overly convicted about his active intervention in their lives. Most were very self-sufficient - they pulled themselves up by their own bootstraps. 

So no, I don't think we have ventured that far from our "Christian Heritage." However, I would say that I am concerned that our freedom of speech has very much been compromised by the press. Though, the whale that rises to the surface gets harpooned. So, if you voice your opinion, be prepared to get attacked by those who disagree. 

Now, back to the current issue. 

The church has always had a response to governmental issues. They've had an opinion. They did back in the early 1800s about slavery, but I would like to be very clear, that the Bible's stance on slavery is very easy to discern. The real issue, is taking the Bible out of context and interpreting it through personal bias. Through history, many Christians have done just that. But as before mentioned, the gospel is for all, and we've all been created in God's image. 

Concerning the women's suffrage movement, look at this:
...wives, be subject to your own husbands. 1 Peter 3:1
It's easy to read this verse out of context and think that God devalues women. But if you see the entire passage, he's talking about wives being kind to their husbands so that their husbands will respect them, and potentially, come to Christ because of them. And he also addresses husbands. 
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered. 1 Peter 3:7
You can't piecemeal the Bible. Keeping what you like and casting aside what you don't. (And just for the record, "weaker vessel" isn't an insult. The concept of women being just as strong as any man is a rather new concept. And honestly, women have a higher pain tolerance than men. The idea of weaker vessel suggests that men care for and protect women since testosterone lends them a natural advantage of strength). But listen, this is cool: if men don't treat their wives right, their relationship with God is out of whack. Get right with your wife, be at peace with God. 

Anyways - the Bible is VERY clear. There's no misunderstanding about how God feels about people of other ethnicities and both genders. 

If the church took a bigoted stance towards other ethnicities or genders - they wouldn't have a leg to stand on. During the Women's and Civil Rights Movements, the stool got kicked out from under them. They had to change. They had to take into consideration what the Bible says about those issues. 

However, I must challenge my world with the concept that this new movement is difficult to support Biblically, and in fact, you'll have to do some pretty fancy piecemealing to find a way for Biblical support. Rather, if you read the Bible plainly, it's easy to find support for women and ethnic equality, but impossible to find plain support for homosexuality. 

And so, as we look to the future, I see a very interesting road ahead. We've seen a change in church perspective in other issues because of Biblical evidence, but I don't see the church coming around to this without chopping up the very word we've founded our beliefs on. 

For this reason, I've noticed something distinctly different about the Equality Movement. While those of other ethnicities and women have clung to God as their hope through their search for equality, you simply don't see that in the LGBT community. Their leaders and voices are typically of another religious persuasion. For those who teeter on the edge, they find themselves at war with themselves, not able to reconcile their feelings and faith. And so, the movement and the church have diverged, rather than converged, as it has in the past. I think this creates a difficult comparison for this new movement and past movements. 

But - this does not mean that God has abandoned us. Nor, does it meal we have to move to Canada (which, actually supports marriage equality, so there goes that plan), or drop off the map. God has not called us to live in a little Christian bubble. We are to be in the world (not of it, but in it). Click Here to read more. We're not a bunch of Anabaptists (Amish, German Baptist) isolating ourselves. How on earth can we share God's love by running away from those who need it most?

However, we are called to speak truth in Love. It's God's place to judge, not ours. Have integrity and don't change what the Bible says to suit the government's decision. But don't hate the government either. Respect the ruling authorities. Live at peace with your neighbors. Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. And share the hope that we have received through Christ with everyone you meet, so that they too might believe and have eternity with Christ. 

History was made yesterday, and I would certainly say that a new precedent has been set. Up until yesterday, the church often reconciled government decisions with the Bible, but now, the two have gone in different directions. I would even venture to say that God has used the government to enlighten the church. 

But the government was never the upholder of Christian religion. 

The government isn't God's image bearer. 

We are his image bearers. 

So love one another as Christ first loved you. For as much grace has been shown to you, share with others. We're all sinners in need of a savior. We're imperfect and flawed. No one of us is in "less" need of saving. You're not on a pedestal, nor is someone else in a pit. 

God is love. When he's on the throne of our hearts, he transforms lives. So let Christ transform you. Let him speak through you. And just remember, you can't hold God's standards to people without his blood covering them. 

So keep on. Live as Christ's representatives here on earth. But let him be in control. HE IS IN CONTROL. He's never out of control. Trust God, and love his people. Have integrity. Live what you believe so that your witness won't be compromised. Becoming a hypocrite never helped anyone. Unkind people aren't respected. 

Whatever the future holds, why are you afraid? Just live for Christ. 


Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Have Some Grace

It's all over the news

It's in every facebook news update

And most people have some form of an opinion about it.

If you're against it, you're a hater.

If you're for it, you're a hero.

So the best option is to be quiet. Because the whale that rises to the surface gets harpooned. It's easier not to say anything, or to just smile - neither agreeing nor disagreeing. Because no one wants to be a hater. And who can, with good conscience, condone something they believe to be wrong?

Claiming to be a Christian today goes with some serious stereotypes.

Church history doesn't paint a pretty picture. As a history major, I've paid close attention to the record books, I'm well aware. Many awful things have been done in Jesus' name. But can I say something?

Who I am does not define who my God is.

Actually, that's the real miracle. Why on earth would my God love someone like me?

My God is radically different from the person that I am. When He and I are paired side by side, we shouldn't have anything in common - except for the fact that Jesus loved me (a broken, miserable human being) and gave his life for me. His blood covers me so that when God looks at me, he doesn't see my brokenness, instead, he sees his perfect son.

Even Ghandi said, "I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians."

Hmm... See, the reality is this: As Christians, we are called to be imitators of Christ, but more often than not, we come up miserably short.

Actually, if we could imitate Christ perfectly, what need would we have for him?

The standard has been set: Perfection. The only way to gain eternity with God is perfection. And since we can't do it on our own - we need Christ's redeeming sacrifice. His blood covers our imperfections.

That's what I see when I look at Church history up to today - a bunch of broken, weary sinners who've been redeemed in spite of their imperfection. (All of this depending on whether or not they have truly claimed Christ in the Biblical sense - Romans 10:9 "if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.") I can't vouch for the personal convictions of historical figures, I didn't know them. But if they had a personal relationship with God, they are forgiven whatever wrongdoings they committed.

Just like you and me.

This is what sin looks like. And despite our shortcomings, claiming Christ means his spirit dwells inside us and equips us to extend Grace to others, just as we have been shown Grace.

That's the Lord's prayer in it's essence. Help me to forgive as you forgave me.

Now I'm sure you're feeling very confused by the way I opened this article. But just hang in there.

As a Christian... this is where I stand on the issue of homosexuality.

It's a hot topic. And most churches have made the choice to toss out Biblical teaching in order to keep peace, stay quiet, or firmly stand on the Bible and beat on everyone who thinks otherwise.

I think that Jesus wouldn't stand for that kind of behavior.

What you have to realize, is that indeed, I do believe that God created a natural way of things, and he blesses he union of a man and a woman. And he blesses the friendship of two people. But we can't mix the two.

HOWEVER. Making this claim doesn't give anyone the right to go on a crusade. God is God and I am not. I don't sit in the Judge's seat. And that same gift of salvation that was offered to me is also for the person who struggles with same sex attraction. And who am I to condemn someone? Me a sinner judging another sinner?

Here the deal. When the Bible talks about homosexuality, it's listed alongside other sins such as lying, cheating, gossiping, stealing... It's a sin. Plain and simple, and ANY sin creates a separation from God that can only be bridged through Christ.

So, as a sinner, I think I can look at another sinner and see someone God created, loves and wants to extend grace to.

Hating another sinner is hypocritical, since I'm a sinner. I've lied, disobeyed, said mean/rude things.

Now, let me make this clear - when we accept Christ's gift of forgiveness, that means "repent." This word means to literally "turn away from." So when I repent of sin, I'm turning away from it and leaving it behind.

I'm not perfect, try as I might, sometimes, I make the same mistake twice. It's hard. That's why we need Jesus so much. That's why his Holy Spirit comes to dwell inside of us, to equip us with the strength we need to walk away from sin.

So, fellow sinner, how about you and me rejoice in the fact that we are so loved by God that he still wants us, broken as we are, and promises to help us succeed?

Different sins have different physical, earthly consequences. But all sin has the same eternal consequence. And God has eternity in mind. And we're supposed to set our minds on things above. So let's follow Christ's example.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

What Girls Really Think

After having the umpteenth conversation on this topic, it seems as if it’s time someone wrote about it.

Clearly, the Christian dating culture is undergoing a radical transformation. Somehow, the idealized courting culture isn’t working out, and more and more Christians are starting to justify unequally yoked relationships. Something’s up. And the ones who still want that Christ-centered relationship with someone are getting discouraged because they’re under the impression that it doesn’t exist or isn’t in God’s will for them.

But interestingly enough, the trend I’m noticing is that guys don’t like the dating culture, and girls feel ignored. Best I can figure, the men are giving up, and the girls are wondering, “where have all the good men gone?” Then men who don't give up, either succeed, or scare the girls away unintentionally.

Likely, you may have read the article, “Why Courtship is Fundamentally Flawed.” Thomas Umstattd is someone I became familiar with through the Mt. Hermon Christian Writers’ Conference and I for one, did read and enjoy the article. If you haven’t, long story short, he argued that the rise in courting culture has actually created more bad relationships than good ones (or no relationships at all) because of the heavy emphasis on becoming serious very quickly.

His argument rang true, especially in the conservative community. But for myself, I wouldn’t say I was ever apart of the courtship crowd. Not all girls are. Most of us are just the daydreamers who just want someone to ask us out for goodness sake. More than anything, we can’t wait to meet that guy God has in store. We like the idea of daddy walking us down the isle. We want to get married, start a family and maybe have a career.  Of course, I think most of us are realistic enough to know that Mr. Right might not be the first man to come along. Sometimes you have to meet a few before you get an idea of what you appreciate in someone else.

And yet… even outside the courting culture, it seems to me that the age old dilemma of, “what is she thinking,” or “what is he thinking,” has played a major role in the dating revolution.

It’s human nature to be afraid of failure – and failure seems to be a common outcome. Girls are always saying that they “want to be pursued.” But unless you’re Liam Hemsworth or Channing Tatum, pursuit is coming off as “weird” or “creepy.” Why is that?

My heart is breaking for those poor boys who got turned down simply because they were doing as told.

So if pursuit isn’t working, what do girls really want?

Question of the hour.

Let me preface my answer by saying that I can’t speak for every woman, but I can speak for the ones I know.

Time and again, I hear stories of guys walking up to the girl they like and immediately voicing interest. Not to say they asked her out on the spot, but picture a kid on the playground turning to another and saying without preamble, “You’re my new friend.”

As a child, this is kinda cute, but for most of us in our late teens and early twenties, this is just a bit presumptive. Hence, the awkward excuses to leave and disturbing whispers.

Why? Why do girls react this way when all the poor boy was trying to do was pursue her?

Well, fact is, girls are HIGHLY relational.

Let’s start there.

How on earth do you get to know a girl without coming on too strong?

Well, let me start with, girls do like to be pursued, but we also need trust.

If you want to get to know a girl, start looking for opportunities to get to know her in group settings. Movie nights, game nights, study groups, youth group, college group, church, retreats etc. are the perfect opportunity to talk to someone without a lot of pressure. One-on-one is very anxiety inducing for girls – the minute she walks away, her friends will assault her and ask for every detail. But if you find a chance to talk to her during some group activity, she’s more likely to relax and chat casually.

If you can maintain a decent conversation in a group setting, it’s very likely that she’ll say, “hi” the next time she sees you. She’ll remember your name and maybe some details about you. There’s a good chance, you’ll get a chance to talk to her again, or she might seek you out the next time you are in a group setting together. You’re a familiar face.

Get to know her in group settings. No pressure. Become her friend. Girls like the idea (even before dating) of dating someone they can actually talk to. It’s not all about physical appearance. REALLY. Girls fall for guys the world wouldn’t call “handsome” all the time. If you are nice and approachable, she’ll enjoy your company. And if she enjoys your company – then there is a good chance she could fall for you. (Honestly, even handsome men start looking ugly if they act ugly)

The next question you’re likely to ask is: “But won’t that get me friend-zoned?”

The concept of a friend-zone makes most of my friends laugh. There’s no such thing, men.

Here’s the reality. The friend-zone is not a dead-end road. It’s a toll bridge. When you earn the right to cross, you’ll leave the friend zone. Simply pay your dues. Like I said, girls fall for the nice guy. The day she realizes she can’t stand the idea of someone else catching a treasure like you, you’re free and clear.

So what are the dues?

Well, trick is – make her feel important.

Most girls really need words and acts of affirmation. This is where chivalry comes into play. You can’t begin to imagine how wonderful it is as a girl to be listened to. Even our female friends don’t always listen without interrupting. So if she’s talking, pay attention, remember what she says, and ask questions. Open a door for her when you can. Grab something she can’t reach from the top shelf. Be Mr. Fix-It when the opportunity arises. Carry something heavy. Just be careful of treating her like a “little woman.” She wants to be flattered, not belittled.

If you can make her feel important, she’ll fly. And trust me, if she likes you back, she will return the favor.

This really is what girls mean by, “pursuing.” It’s a bit scary, and sometimes it’s slow going, but she won’t feel “creeped on.”

Just watch. The more you get to know her, opportunities to do things in “smaller” groups will arise. Find a good wingman and find out who her wing-woman is. Before you know it, one-on-one will come and she will be ready for it.

Now… if you find that progressing beyond seeing her at large gatherings isn’t happening, I have to be honest and say that it’s likely, the two of you don’t have much in common. Something happened when you engaged her in conversation that made her feel as if the two of you didn’t have enough to talk about. She might think you’re a nice person, but don’t have enough of a foundation to make a friendship worthwhile. I’m sorry.

But never forget:

Always be praying.

If this is something that’s on your heart, God likely put it there. But remember, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths” (Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV). And, “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” (Philippians 4:6 ESV).

We were made to live in community. Even when girls think guys are really confusing, and guys think the same of girls.

The above is everything I tell my friends who are guys. Treat a girl right and she’ll follow. Truly, most girls don’t want the Liam Hemsworths and Channing Tatums of the world, because more often than not, they don’t have the personality to back up the looks (sometimes they do, but not always). Ask any girl worth knowing (I realize that not all girls have a decent head on their shoulders) and she’ll tell you that girls will fall for anyone who’s nice, regardless of how he looks.

That’s what we’re looking for.

Other details we find attractive…
  • driven (career)
  • hygiene
  • strong Christian faith
  • similar worldview (this might include church denomination/ moral values/ dogs vs cats/ children/ politics/ sports teams etc.)
  • work ethic

But really, after a few months… you ought to have discovered all of these things. If you don’t already have her number, ask for it. If you haven’t gone out on a date (non-committal/casual) ask her. And if she doesn’t know you like her, start thinking about how to tell her. If you’ve gotten this far, she’s probably wondering already.

If she likes you…

She’s already told her friends about you. She’s told her parents (maybe – at least her mom). When a girl likes a boy, she can’t keep it inside. It starts with a smile and ends up spilling into every thought and conversation. Every time she sees you, she’ll have to do breathing exercises to keep from smiling like crazy – then she’ll go find one of her friends and tell them every detail of the interaction.

Now you know.

This is what girls really think. Most girls, anyhow.


Good luck.